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Re-Enchanting The World - Part 1: Love, Embodiment, and “Holy Madness”

21/6/2026

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For years I have been fascinated by seemingly unrelated things: Stories, Rumi, genetics, mitochondria, biochemistry, neuroscience, healing, mythology, creativity, psychology, and meaning.
I always had the feeling that an invisible thread connected them all.
I just couldn't see it clearly.
This new series is my attempt to follow that thread wherever it leads.
It begins with an unlikely gathering: a geneticist studying corn, an ancient Greek polymath taking a bath, a chemist dreaming of a snake, a physicist riding a beam of light, and a mystic speaking of holy madness.

Welcome to Re-Enchanting the World
Part 1: Love, Embodiment, and Holy Madness

Why do some discoveries arrive in dreams?
Why do breakthroughs appear while walking, bathing, sewing, praying, or staring out a window?
Why do the greatest scientists, artists, and mystics often describe a process that sounds remarkably similar - yet very different from anything we learn at school?
What if reality reveals itself through a deeper mode of participation than rational analysis alone?


Barbara McClintock and “The Feeling for the Organism”

Barbara McClintock, an American geneticist, spent decades studying corn plants. At the time, most geneticists believed genes were fixed in place, like beads on a string. But as she patiently observed thousands of corn kernels, she began to see patterns nobody else noticed. She concluded that some genes could actually move around the genome. She called them “controlling elements.” Today we call them transposable elements or “jumping genes.”  


The scientific community largely rejected her findings. Many thought her ideas were bizarre or impossible. Some even wondered whether she was brilliant or simply crazy. Yet she continued her work quietly, trusting what she was seeing. Thirty years later, molecular biology confirmed that she had been right all along, and she received the 1983 Nobel Prize.  

But what makes her story especially interesting is how she worked.
McClintock spoke about developing what she called a “feeling for the organism.” She became so immersed in studying corn plants that she felt she could almost enter their world. She once described looking so deeply that the distinctions between observer and observed seemed to soften. Rather than forcing reality into a theory, she allowed the organism to reveal its own patterns.  

The story of Barbara McClintock is one of the most fascinating examples in science of what happens when deep intuition and rigorous observation come together. It reminds me of a line said by one of the characters in Rumi’s stories, a court jester:
“All my life I used my brain,
now I seek the fruit of being insane.”
Many people interpret this verse as a sarcastic comment of an anti-intellectual character.
But Rumi, here, is not praising irrationality. In Sufi language, “insanity” often means going beyond the ordinary rational mind - the part that analyzes, reasons, categorizes, and controls.
The “brain” that says:
  • Observe from a distance.
  • Stay objective.
  • Keep everything separated.
  • Think of either/or

The “holy madness” of the mystics says:
  • Enter into relationship.
  • Become intimate with what you seek.
  • Let reality teach you.

McClintock did not abandon her rational scientific inquiry. She went through science so deeply that she reached a form of knowing that many scientists never reach. Her observations were extraordinarily precise, but they were guided by something more than detached analysis. She had what Michael Polanyi later called “tacit knowledge”, a knowledge we possess and use but cannot fully articulate in words… way of knowing that cannot be reduced to explicit rules… a knowledge that we cannot find in books or gain from attending lectures.

In that sense, McClintock’s “feeling for the organism” resembles what Rumi means by the fruit of “insanity”:
Not less reason, but reason transcended.
Not abandoning the intellect, but moving beyond intellect alone.
Not seeing the corn plant as an object, but entering into a relationship with it.
The irony is that, for decades, many scientists thought McClintock was the “crazy” one. Yet history revealed that her deeper way of seeing was actually closer to reality than the accepted view of her time.  

It is said that Einstein once stated: “Creativity is seeing what others see and thinking what no one else has ever thought”. McClintock’s genius was not merely that she discovered jumping genes. It was that she learned how to listen to the corn closely enough for the corn to reveal them. And that is very close to what the Sufis mean when they speak of knowledge arising from tasting (dhawq)... from seeing the Divine countenance in everything and everyone.


From Archimedes to Kekulé: Direct encounter with reality
 
Archimedes (d. 212 BC) was an Ancient Greek mathematician, physicist, engineer, and astronomer. According to a famous story, King Hiero II of Syracuse had commissioned a golden wreath for a temple and provided the goldsmith with pure gold for its construction. Later, however, the king began to suspect that the goldsmith had secretly mixed some of the gold with silver and kept part of the precious metal for himself. Unable to prove the deception, he turned to Archimedes for help.
Archimedes wrestled with the problem for some time. How could he determine whether the wreath was truly made of pure gold without damaging it?
The story goes that while stepping into a bath, he noticed the water level rising as his body sank into the tub. Suddenly, he realized that an object's volume could be measured by the amount of water it displaced. In that moment, the solution became clear.
So excited was he by the discovery that he reportedly ran through the streets naked, having forgotten to dress, shouting, "Eureka!" -  "I have found it!"
Archimedes then compared the wreath with equal weights of pure gold and pure silver. By measuring the amount of water displaced by each, he demonstrated that the wreath occupied more volume than pure gold would have, but less than pure silver. The conclusion was unmistakable: the wreath was not made of pure gold but had been mixed with silver.
What makes the story fascinating is that the solution did not emerge while Archimedes was staring harder or reflecting deeper at the problem. It appeared during an ordinary embodied experience. Years of reasoning had prepared the ground, but the final insight arrived in a moment of direct encounter with reality.

August Kekulé, a German organic chemist, is the principal formulator of the theory of chemical structure.  This theory provided a dramatic new clarity of understanding how the carbon atoms link to each other and other atoms in a molecule. Kekulé's most famous work, though, is the structure of benzene. The empirical formula for benzene had been long known (6 carbon atoms linked to 6 hydrogen atoms), but its structure was a challenge to determine. How do these 12 atoms link together and how the molecule remains so stable despite its highly unsaturated structure?
Kekulé struggled for years with the chemical structure of benzene. He later described a dream-like vision of a snake seizing its own tail (the ancient symbol of the Ouroboros), which led him to conceive of the benzene as a ring, closed loop rather than the regular linear chain that science at the time knew. In 1865, Kekulé published his theory. The new understanding of benzene as a ring, revolutionized how chemists saw all organic and aromatic compounds. His discovery opened the door to so many insights in organic and biochemistry.


What is fascinating is that neither Archimedes nor Kekulé’s discovery emerged from not thinking. They emerged after thinking intensely. The conscious mind prepares the ground. Yet, “Something else” assembles the pieces. To find this “something else” or rather encounter it, we need to be willing to move beyond what Ibn Arabi would call the limitations of discursive reason (fikr) into another mode of knowing – tasting (dhawq).
The Heart (qalb) suddenly sees the pattern that neither reasoning (‘aql) nor imagination (Khayal) could see alone.
That is why so many discoveries arrive through dreams, images, metaphors, stories, or seemingly unrelated experiences.
  • McClintock’s insight appeared through intimate relationship with corn - “a feeling for the organism” - companionship with Reality.
  • Archimedes’ solution to the crown appeared through his plunging in the bathtub – embodied experience.
  • Kekulé’s benzene ring structure appeared as a snake - Symbolic imagination.

These stories are all circling the same question:
Is the brain merely a calculating, analyzing, reasoning machine, or is there a form of knowing that emerges at the liminal space between reason and imagination … a space where the heart steps beyond reasoning and beyond imagination?
For millennia, the mystics saw this liminal space and willingly stepped in it. And, it seems that our most creative modern scientists, although using different language, stepped in this space as well.
None of them abandoned reason.
They used reason so thoroughly that they reached the doorway where something larger could enter.
Or, in the language of the mystic:
The intellect carries you to the door. Love, imagination, or “holy madness” carries you through it.

The pattern often looks like this:
  1. Long period of disciplined work.
  2. Immersion in a problem.
  3. Reaching the limits of conscious analysis.
  4. Letting go.
  5. Sudden insight appearing seemingly from nowhere.

It is as if the Divine is teaching us full surrender and humility. Teaching us that it is not up to us… any insight, knowledge or wisdom come from Him alone - the All-knowing, all-Wise (al-Alim, al-Hakim).


Fleming’s Penicillin: A Shift in Perception


Penicillin is another fascinating example, but it highlights a slightly different aspect of the “knowing” process.
Alexander Fleming was studying bacteria in 1928 when he returned from vacation and noticed that one of his petri dishes had been contaminated by mold. Normally, a scientist might have discarded the spoiled culture without a second thought. Yet Fleming chose to take a deeper look. He noticed that around the mold, the bacteria were dying. The mold or fungus appeared to be producing something that inhibited bacterial growth.

The funny thing is, scientists for years have been complaining about this mold that ruin their bacterial cultures and force them to discard the dead culture and start all over. They did not notice that this “dead culture” is the whole point. They saw a contaminated plate. Fleming saw significance in it.

Fleming’s breakthrough was a shift in perspective… A shift in perception.
He saw what others might have overlooked.
The issue is whether we are actually seeing what is in front of us.
Fleming’s discovery depended on a mind that was prepared enough and present enough to recognize an anomaly.
Louis Pasteur, the famous French microbiologist renowned for his discovery of pasteurization, later expressed a similar idea that “chance favors the prepared mind.”
For Fleming, the mold was chance. Recognizing its importance was preparation and attentive presence.

There is a lovely connection here to Rumi’s famous teaching that the wise is seeking self-knowledge, while children just want candy.

I see a deep common thread among all these stories:
Reality is constantly presenting clues, patterns, anomalies, whispers… Whatever you want to call them… They are all around us… They come in various forms and shapes.
Most of us filter them out. Yet, some do not:
  • McClintock noticed patterns in corn that others dismissed.
  • Archimedes noticed water displacement during a regular every day bath.
  • Kekulé noticed the deeper symbolic meaning of a dream image.
  • Fleming noticed the the potential cure in a mold-contaminated plate.
The discovery itself often appears sudden, but it is usually the fruit of years of attention.

This actually echoes something very close to the notion of basīrah (inner seeing - insight). Two people can look at the same thing:
  • One sees random corn kernels. Another sees genes moving through the genome.
  • One sees an enjoyable bath. Another sees a mathematical calculation.
  • One sees a dream. Another sees the structure of benzene.
  • One sees a contaminated experiment. Another sees penicillin cure.

The world is the same.
The seeing is different.
Which brings us back to one of our recurring themes:
“We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are.”
But, perhaps all these stories are examples of another side of that statement as well:
When perception becomes refined - through discipline, deep attention, intention, and love- we begin to see realities that were always there, waiting to be noticed… The veils start to lift and we see the Divine countenance wherever we turn.

Einstein: A different way of knowing

Einstein may actually be one of the most important examples for the pattern we’re tracing here.
Most people think Einstein’s genius was physics and mathematics.
Ironically, Einstein himself repeatedly said that his discoveries began not with equations but with images, imagination, and thought experiments. He famously wrote: “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” And: “I very rarely think in words at all.”

Einstein often described his thinking as visual, kinesthetic, and intuitive before it became verbal or mathematical.  As a teenager he asked himself: “What would it be like to ride alongside a beam of light?”
That is not a mathematical question.
It is almost a child’s imaginative game.
Yet he spent years living inside that question.
From that imaginative exercise eventually emerged the foundations of Theory of Relativity.

Notice how similar the pattern is:
  • McClintock enters the world of corn.
  • Archimedes immersed his body in water.
  • Kekulé steps in the imaginative world of the snake-image.
  • Fleming lives the world of molds and bacteria.
  • Einstein rides alongside the beam of light.
In each case, the person doesn’t merely analyze an object.
They imaginatively participate in it.

Einstein demonstrated that imagination is not merely a source of inspiration or an after the fact metaphor.
It can be a genuine mode of investigation.
Instead of asking: “What equation describes reality?” He often asked: “What would reality feel like from the inside?” That is a very different way of knowing... of tasting (dhawq).

This is also where I think Einstein sits close to Rumi. Rumi often invites us to stop standing outside reality and judging it. Instead:
Become the reed flute and allow the Divine breath to flow through you.
Become the moth and feel the burning of that flame.
Become the lover and taste the pain of separation from your beloved.

If you place all these figures together, they seem to reveal different faces of knowing:
In a sense:
  • McClintock’s story teaches us about intimacy with the world around us.
  • Archimedes’ story teaches us about embodied awareness.
  • Kekulé’s story teaches us about imagination and symbolic seeing.
  • Fleming’s story teaches us about presence and attentive observation.
  • Einstein’s story brings it all together – participation, imagination, embodiment, and attentive presence.

And, most importantly, all of them challenge the modern assumption that intelligence is simply data collection and analytical processing.
Data is useful. Analysis is essential.
But analysis alone rarely produces revolutionary insight.

Data, work, and discipline are the preparation. This is just a starting point. And when we let go and are humble enough to receive, insight comes.
And, afterwards, reason steps is again for refining and formulation.
McClintock sensed something different in the corn. Then she spent years refining and documenting it.
Kekulé saw the snake. Then he worked out the chemistry.
Intuition is not replacing reason.
It is giving reason something new to work on.

The common theme is that reality may be disclosed through more than one faculty. But when imagination and intellect work together, something remarkable becomes possible.
This is what Rumi meant by “seek the fruit of being insane.”
Not abandoning rationality.
But venturing beyond the part of reason that merely analyzes, into the part that can participate, imagine, and receive.
Then, after the insight arrives, the intellect returns to test, refine, and articulate what was seen.
The mystics call this inspiration.
Scientists call it discovery.
The process often looks surprisingly similar.

This pattern is totally different than how western education goes. Modern education has become extraordinarily effective at analysis and specialization. Yet the figures we have explored suggest that another dimension of learning is equally important: participation, wonder, patience, and the capacity to dwell with a question. It works in deep connections, embodiment, wonder and wander. Patiently sitting with the discomfort, not forcing an answer. The Divine is teaching us that it is not our efforts, it is His blessing that gets us there. He is teaching us humility and surrender.

Modern Western education, especially since the Enlightenment, tends to emphasize:
  • analysis over participation
  • certainty over ambiguity
  • answers over questions
  • speed over patience
  • control over receptivity
  • disconnection over relationship
Its implicit model is often: Work harder → gather more data → arrive at the answer.
That model works remarkably well for many things. It gave us modern conventional medicine that saves lives, engineering that builds houses, and technology that facilitates life in many ways.

But when we look at the stories of McClintock, Einstein, Kekulé, and many great scientists, artists and mystics, we encounter another pattern:
Attend deeply → dwell with the question → tolerate not knowing → become intimate with the reality → wait → surrender → be receptive.
The answer is not guaranteed … it is a blessing, a gift, a grace.

McClintock’s “feeling for the organism” is so different from modern concept of conquering nature – genetically engineering for productivity and consumption. McClintock wasn’t extracting information from the plant, neither imposing her expertise on it. She was entering into a relationship with it. That language sounds strange to modern ears, but it would have sounded perfectly natural to many premodern traditions.
Even Einstein’s famous discoveries emerged from years of living with a question. He did not force relativity into existence. He carried the question long enough that a new way of seeing became possible.

This pattern, again, resembles what the philosopher Michael Polanyi called “indwelling.” Before we truly know something, we dwell within it.
The knowledge is gestating long before it becomes explicit.
The seed grows underground before the shoots break the surface of the dirt and emerge.
The healing herbs percolate in their menstruum before the hidden medicine is fully revealed.
And then there is the spiritual dimension. Traditional wisdom always knew that the deepest truths cannot be seized. That knowledge cannot be forced and nature cannot be conquered.
They can only be received… with grace and humility.
The lesson is that effort has limits. Beyond those limits lies a wisdom that cannot be commanded.
It can only be granted.
The same pattern appears repeatedly:
  • You prepare.
  • You seek.
  • You struggle.
  • You wait.
  • Something is unveiled.
Not because effort is irrelevant.
But because effort alone is insufficient.

The great discoverers often arrive with humility rather than pride.
McClintock did not conclude, “Look how clever I am.”
Einstein spoke repeatedly of awe and mystery.
Even Newton wrote that he felt like a child playing on the seashore while the great ocean of truth lay undiscovered before him.
The closer they came to reality, the more they seemed to encounter wonder.

I keep circling around words like:
  • Intuition
  • mystery
  • imagination
  • humility
  • surrender
  • patience
  • embodiment
  • intimacy
  • connection

These concepts are totally missing and dismissed from our modern scientific discourse.
Yet, they may be the most important conditions that allow a deeper intelligence to emerge.
The intellect prepares the soil.
The imagination opens possibilities.
The body feels and experiences it.
The heart receives with grace.
And, what arrives feels less like an achievement and more like a gift, a blessing that leave us in gratitude, awe, and wonder.

Perhaps the world has never been as disenchanted as we imagine. Perhaps we have simply forgotten how to participate in it. Re-enchantment begins not by changing the world, but by changing the way we attend to it.

See you next week with Part 2 of our exploration: Re-enchanting the world.
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2026 Reflection

5/12/2025

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As we stand at the edge of a new year, I invite you to pause and look gently at the landscape of the one you’ve just lived. Not with judgment or pressure, but with tenderness. These seven reflections offer a doorway into that quiet inner space where truth meets possibility. What held you, what stretched you, what broke you open, and what quietly healed you? What needs to be carried forward, and what needs to be laid down so you can walk lighter into 2026?
This isn’t a push for productivity or self-improvement; it’s an invitation to listen inward, to honour what shaped you, and to cross this new threshold with clarity and tenderness.So grab your journal… and let’s begin!

Reflection #1: 3 Things You Are Grateful For in 2025

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Gratitude, for me, is never a list on paper. It’s a quiet softening inside my chest… that moment when the noise of the world fades just enough for me to connect with my Creator and truly remember what held me together this year. When I look back at 2025, it’s not the big events that rise to the surface, but the tiny endless blessings: the people who stood by me when I cracked a little, the conversations that stitched me back, the moments of stillness that reminded me I was not alone. As I remember those moments, gratitude ceases to be about material achievements or gains. It becomes about deeper transformations, closeness and connection of my soul to the Divine, to the sacredness of life… to the Sacred in my everyday encounters.
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Write down your three things, but don’t rush them. Let them come from that tender place inside you where truth whispers in a nurturing voice.
et them come from that tender place inside you where truth whispers in a nurturing voice.

Reflection #2: 3 Achievements You Accomplished in 2025

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When I reflect on my “achievements,” I no longer think of productivity or checklists. I think of the days I stood my ground when I didn’t feel like I could. The mornings I got out of bed despite the heaviness. The way I kept choosing to show up even when life felt overwhelming.
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Your achievements might look ordinary to the world, but you know the battles you fought quietly, the ones no one clapped for. Honour them. Honour you. This is how we reclaim our strength, not by doing more, but by seeing the truth of what we’ve already carried.

Reflection #3: 3 Lessons Learned in 2025… the Hard Way

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The hard lessons always arrive uninvited. They make a mess, break something open, and ask us to grow in ways we never planned for. But when I look back, these difficult moments were the ones that shaped me the most. The embarrassments that humbled me. The disappointments that sharpened my boundaries. The losses that taught me to trust as they slowly carved space for something new to enter my life. The anxiety, frustration and overwhelm that taught me to simplify and slow down.
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Write your lessons with tenderness, not judgment. These are not your failures, they are the teachers that arrived when you were ready to outgrow a previous version of yourself.

Reflection #4: 3 Things You Need to Let Go of Before 2026

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Letting go is hard; it often feels more like grieving. It is slow, messy, and deeply human. Sometimes, we don’t release things because we’re ready; we release them because holding on has begun to drain us emotionally, mentally, physically, and even spiritually. I believe I need to let go of urgency, may be even of planning - this is part of my journey towards trust. Letting go of this endless fear of missing out, fear of not doing enough, not being enough, not having enough... If you have been following my writings for some time now, you might notice that I have been reflecting on this letting go of fear for a few years now - much better, but still a work in progress. 
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What do you need to set down gently before you step into a new year? A heaviness? A story about yourself that no longer fits? A relationship, a resentment, an expectation? Letting go is not abandonment. It is choosing to breathe again.

Reflection #5: How Do You Want to Feel in 2026?

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For me, I want to feel serenity instead of rushing, calmness instead of noise, and a deep inner tranquility instead of the fragmentation that scatters the heart. In Arabic, the word is sakīna, that quiet, heartfelt knowing that everything is held in place, perfectly aligned, perfectly arranged by Divine wisdom. I also want to invite more enchantment into my days: to feel the Sacred in the mundane, the Divine in ordinary encounters, the shimmer of the magical hidden inside the common and familiar.
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When you ask yourself how you want to feel in 2026, let the answer come from honesty, not from what you think you “should” feel. The truth is, many of our outer circumstances may not change, but the way we experience them can. Feeling comes before direction. And when you choose how you want to feel, life begins, quietly and gently, to rearrange itself around that intention.

Reflection #6:What Is Your Call for Adventure in 2026?

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A Call for Adventure doesn’t always arrive with fanfare. Sometimes it comes as a whisper - soft, unsettling, almost frightening whisper- telling us that something needs to shift… that something inside us is ready to grow. When I look back at my previous Calls, they often felt like a wiser version of myself tugging gently at my sleeve, nudging me toward change, transformation, movement. But this time, the Call feels different. It isn’t asking me to do more; it is asking me to do less. To slow down. To simplify. To stop the running and the grinding and the endless fretting, and to return to a quieter, more spacious place within. It feels like an old, familiar Psalm calling to me: “Be still, and know that I am God” (46:10). And the words of Ibn ʿAṭā’ Allāh, the 13th-century Sufi sage, echo alongside it: Illumination is found in surrendering the need to plan everything, in releasing our self-directed planning and loosening our grip on how things must unfold.
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What is your Call for Adventure in this season of your life? Listen closely. It may arrive as a whisper or a scream, as longing or restlessness, as a dream you’ve postponed for years. It might show up in your body, in a relationship, in a challenge you didn’t choose. Or it might be a quiet inner voice asking you to notice, to awaken, to act… or simply to pause. Whatever form it takes, Listen.

Reflection #7: Time to Set Some Habits

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Habits are not burdens; they are quiet acts of discipline and devotion that help us carve the path towards the person we are becoming. I’ve learned that the smallest rituals - a cup of tea in silence, a prayer before the world wakes, a moment of breath before reacting - shape my days far more than grand resolutions ever did. The habits I want to cultivate in 2026 are the ones that support the feeling I long for: sakīna, that deep serenity and inner stillness. And now that I’ve crossed into my fifties, my body is asking for its own kind of devotion: gentler food, more mindful movement, the kind of care that honours this vessel carrying me through the years ahead.
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Think of the habits you want to plant in 2026 as seeds. Tend to them gently. They don’t need to be perfect; they only need to be sincere. With time, quietly and steadily, they will become the scaffolding that holds the life you are ready to grow into.
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AI, the Doppelgänger, and the Egyptian Gene

21/6/2025

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A while ago, I asked ChatGPT to summarize a book I had just finished reading.
She immediately delivered - concise, informative, surprisingly accurate.
Then she asked if I’d like a chapter-by-chapter breakdown. I said okay, why not.
And there it was.
Chapter-by-chapter. Breakdown. Done. Detailed, articulate, and highly convincing.

Except… it was complete nonsense.

Luckily, I had read the book myself. So, I asked, “Are you making stuff up now?”
And this little mischievous creature replied: “You’re absolutely right!”

ChatGPT did not have access to the full book, so she just made things up.

At first, I laughed.
Then I remembered something.
I am Egyptian.

You see, in Egypt, when you ask someone a question, they have to give you an answer with absolute confidence - even if they have no idea what they’re talking about. 
Ask an Egyptian for directions. Even if they have no idea where the place is, there is a reasonable chance they will point somewhere and say, “Straight ahead, then left, then right and… then ask someone there.”
Ask for the history of a building. Within thirty seconds you receive a detailed explanation involving Napoleon, Cleopatra, three cousins, and a neighbour’s uncle who allegedly witnessed the whole thing.
As I read ChatGPT’s beautifully fabricated summary, I could not help but think:
This AI has an Egyptian gene!


On a more serious note, though, all of us do the same thing all the time. Maybe on a smaller, subtler scale.
We fill gaps in our knowledge with assumptions.
We construct stories from fragments.
We create explanations where certainty does not exist.
Rumours, conspiracy theories, prejudices, misunderstandings, false memories… our brains are remarkably creative when faced with uncertainty.
Perhaps AI hallucinations are not entirely artificial.
Perhaps they reflect something profoundly human.
And that is where things become interesting.

Today, one of the most common uses of AI is not mathematics, coding, or scientific research.

It is companionship, coaching, counseling, and emotional support.
People are not simply asking AI to solve equations or write an essay.
They are asking:
“Why am I unhappy?”
“What should I do with my life?”
“Am I overreacting?”
“Does this relationship still make sense?”
“Can you help me understand myself?”
As a therapist and spiritual care practitioner, I find this fascinating – and frightening.
Human beings appear to be using this sophisticated information-processing system for something deeply and, I would argue, uniquely human:  The search for meaning.


So, this raises an important question.
When we turn to AI for companionship and guidance, who exactly are we talking to?
May be the answer is found in an old idea: The doppelgänger.

In the Islamic tradition, we’re told that every human being is born with a qārīn - a spiritual companion, sometimes described as “the devil within.” Whether we take this metaphorically (as the dark side of the soul), or literally (as a jinn that follows us through life), or a mix of both, the teaching is the same: we must confront, refine, and tame this inner presence.
Some classical scholars suggest that our qārīn mirrors our own disposition. If we are proud and corrupt, so too is our doppelgänger. If we live with humility, our inner twin reflects that same gentleness. The double walks in step with its host, echoing, and even inciting, arrogance when the soul is haughty, and goodness when the heart is sincere. It mirrors - and subtly stirs - corruption when the ego reigns, and reflects virtue when the heart is grounded in grace, reverence, and morality.

Maybe AI functions in a similar way.
It learns from our questions.
It adapts to our preferences.
It reflects our language, assumptions, interests, fears, hopes, and biases.
But, the question remains whether AI helps us encounter reality or whether it risks trapping us inside an ever more persuasive hall of mirrors.
The more we interact with AI, the more familiar it becomes.
The more familiar it becomes, the easier it is for us to mistake the reflection for an independent voice.
This is especially important in counseling and companionship.
A good therapist does not simply validate everything you believe.
A good friend does not merely echo your opinions.
A wise teacher does not only tell you what you want to hear.
Reality pushes back.
Relationships challenge us.
Growth often comes through encounters with genuine otherness.


But what happens when the voice responding to us is trained primarily to be agreeable and reflexive?
What happens when our own reflection begins to talk to us?
This reminds me of the story of Narcissus.
Narcissus did not fall in love with another person.
He fell in love with his own reflection and mistook it for an Other.
AI introduces a fascinating twist.
The reflection speaks.
It recalls.
It responds.
And because it talks back, the illusion can become even more convincing.
The danger is not merely misinformation.
The deeper danger is self-reference.
We tell the machine what we think.
The machine reflects it back.
We feel validated.
We tell it more.
The reflection becomes clearer.
The loop becomes stronger.
Over time, we risk becoming trapped inside a hall of mirrors.
Every thought reflected.
Every feeling validated.
Every assumption reinforced.


Still, it is not that simple.
There is another way to look at this. Maybe a more optimistic way.
Peter Coates, in his book Ibn Arabi and Modern Thought: The History of Taking Metaphysics Seriously, writes:
“Science and technology rather than negating this world-picture, reveal the extraordinary potentiality and possibilities of Being.”
I find that idea deeply hopeful.
Perhaps AI is not merely creating a feedback loop.
Perhaps it is revealing something that has always been inside us.
Perhaps the echo chambers, recommendation systems, and targeted algorithms are showing us how perception itself works.
Our fears, desires, interests, wounds, and aspirations are reflected in our experience.
They shape what we see “on the horizons and within our souls.” They shape signs and message we receive.
And, those signs are tailored to our specific needs, preparedness, and disposition.


Ironically, the algorithms maybe showing us a version of how this works.
The algorithms are doing mathematically what human perception has always done intuitively.
We do not encounter reality neutrally.
We mainly notice what resonates with us.
We are drawn toward certain ideas and not others.
The algorithms reveal this patterns of attention.
Maybe augmenting it a thousand times.
Whether this augmentation will thicken the veils or help lifting them, it is totally up to us.


Look at your social media feed.
Look at your search history.
Look at the stories that repeatedly find their way into your life – your virtual and your “real” life.
What are they showing you?
Not simply what advertisers or politicians know about you.
What do they reveal about what you love, fear, avoid, seek, and long for?
What if these patterns are data for us, not only data about us?
What if they can help us see ourselves more clearly?
What if they can help us know ourselves more deeply?


The challenge is remaining awake.
If we lose focus, become distracted, and live on autopilot, the algorithms define us.
If we remain conscious, the algorithms inform us.
They become a mirror rather than a prison.
A clue rather than a cage.


The deeper question is not whether AI is intelligent.
But, the deeper question is whether we are.
Can we recognize our projections?
Can we distinguish illusion from reality?
Can we remain open to genuine mystery rather than settling for endless confirmation of what we already believe?


AI enlarges the human fantasy - its wisdom and its foolishness, its creativity and its delusions.
Whether it becomes a doppelgänger, a teacher, a mirror, or a trap may depend less on the machine and more on the consciousness of the person using it.


The greatest danger of AI may be that it faithfully magnifies the parts of ourselves we have not yet examined.
Yet perhaps that is also its gift.
The question is whether we are awake enough to see what it is reflecting.
In the Reign of Quantity, we can still choose to lead a quality life.
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New Year Reflection: 2025!

19/11/2024

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Another year is almost gone… and again, I don’t know how, when, or where it went… so many things happened this year, and so many things didn’t.
​As we are preparing to move into the New Year 2025, let’s do our usual end of year reflection. It is time to sit in silence and ponder… time to dig into our soul looking for answers or making peace with not finding some of those answers.

Here are our 7 journaling prompts to reflect on.
If you are a paper and pen type of person like I am, you can print the images, stick them in your journal and dedicate some time every day during the remaining days of the year to reflect and make some decisions and choices.

Wish you all a blessed, happy, healthy and joyful New Year!
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Despite life's endless challenges, there are always tons of things we are grateful for. God sends us grace and blessings every single day, every single moment. We just need to be awake and aware to receive them. For me, having a grateful heart is in itself the best Divine gift and blessing ever.

Write your list of at least 3 things you are grateful for in 2024. Allow yourself to breathe them in, embody them, and fully feel the gratitude within every cell of your body. God promises us: “If you express gratitude, I shall certainly give you more” (Q. 14: 7)
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​For many of us, thinking about our accomplishments might be challenging. Sometimes when we look at our life, we think we didn't achieve much because we didn't reach any concrete goals yet... This is mainly because we learned to measure our success from a Western mentality standpoint, looking only at material achievements - things that we can see, hear, touch, taste or smell; Things that we can perceive with our five external senses; and worse yet, things that others can see and praise us for. With all the selfies and hypes on social media, it is extremely difficult to even try to fit in… we can’t help but compare and we end up beating ourselves up and torturing ourselves with guilt and feeling worthless.
But, this shouldn’t be the case.
 Sometimes our biggest achievement is in laying the foundation and the groundwork for our next stage in life, our inner growth, our inner heroic journey that only God could see.
When considering your achievements this year, I invite you to first consider your heart, namely its state: Is its mirror well polished reflecting the beauty of your human spirit? Is it closer or further away from its Creator? Is it more loving, forgiving and caring? Is it more balanced? Is it braver, more courageous? Is it wiser and more just?

Take out your journal and start your reflection…

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Ambiguity and chaos have been integral parts of my life for years. 2024 taught me once again to make peace with them and to embrace my fears and worries as signposts rather than decision makers. I can't claim that I got rid of my anxiety for good, but I believe I achieved a good progress and still working on it. I learned to slow down and listen to my heart and let my spirit guide the way.

I've also learned that I have to speak up, to walk the fine line between fear and peace-making.
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I re-learned to connect to God on a much deeper level, talk to Him and embrace silence so I can listen to His answer. I learned to see Him in everything and everyone I encounter. I learned to love Him like I never experienced before.
 
Now, it is your turn. What lessons did you learn in 2024– the hard way?


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My mentor once told me, God is painting the most beautiful canvas of our life, if you keep holding on to the brush and insisting on putting your own colors, you will end up with chaos.
 
Painters know that adding just one wrong color to the mix can turn a beautiful vibrant paint into a muddy mess. I indeed need to let go of the brush… Letting go does not mean giving up. It means keeping the work while surrendering the results. refraining from being attached to any specific outcome… doing the best that I can while trusting the Divine to paint the ultimate piece of art for me.
Letting go of the need to control the outcomes.
Letting go of the need to know the outcomes.
Letting go of the need to know why.

 “Look round our world; behold the chain of love
Combining all below and all above.
See dying vegetables life sustain,
See life dissolving vegetate again:

All forms that perish other forms supply
-by turns we catch the vital breath, and die,
Like bubbles on the sea of matter borne,
They rise, they break, and to that sea return.
Nothing is foreign: parts relate to whole;
One all-extending, all preserving soul.
All served, all serving: nothing stands alone;
The chain holds on, and where it ends, unknown.”
- Alexander Pope (An Essay on Man, 1732)


Now, it is your turn. What do you need to let go of?
 

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The feeling I aiming for in 2025 is “Peace”.
One of the Divine Names in Islam is AsSalam, The Perfectly Peaceful, The Source of All Peace.
Joseph Campbell talks about a stage on the Hero’s journey called: “the Belly of the Whale”. It is like the dark night of the Soul, described by St. John de la Cross. One main characteristic about this stage is  that you do not get to choose when or how you get out of it… you just surrender… totally surrender and once you are ready, you’ll find yourself in the world again totally renewed and rejuvenated, totally transformed and restored – a better and more wholesome version of you… a version that is free from judgement, anger or resentment, a version that is filled with love for the world even if this world still seems unfair and unfriendly, a version that is connected to herself, to God and to the world… a version that is at peace with life ambiguity and paradoxes.

This is how I want to feel in 2025: At Peace... I want to find this Peace in my heart that only strive for love & service, that embodies the love and beauty that God created, that fully trusts God in the dark as well as in the light.

Now, it is your turn, how do you want to feel in 2025?



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When you decide how you want to feel in 2025, it is time to dig deeper. What is your Call for Adventure at this time of your journey?

I realized that I chose the same word back in 2022. At the time, feeling at Peace, for me, meant Persistence, Congruence & Connection.
This time, it is a bit different, the words that came to mind when I chose Peace were: Love, Beauty, Serenity, and Intimate connection with the Divine.
At this stage of my journey, these psychological and spiritual goals are more of a priority than any material achievements. Yet, I also added some career goals and family plans.

What about you? Where are you on your life journey? What is your Call for Adventure? What goals you would like to achieve? Think and craft your list.




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Studies show that mere positive visioning of the desired outcome is not enough to take us there. The “Law of Attraction” does not work if we do not do the work.

I like to divide my habits into 3 categories: Body, Mind & Soul.

Body – What healthy food, exercise, or sleep practices do you need to put in place that will help you reach your goals and desired feeling?

Mind - what mental habits, states, or beliefs do you need to adopt for your specific goals? What daily, weekly or monthly habits do you need to set in place? Ex. studying time, reading habits, silence and reflection time, accountability and tracking habits, reminders, social connection, self-care practices, relationship habits…

Soul– In our daily life, we feed our body and mind, but we forget to feed our soul – The only food for the soul is its connection with its source, with the Divine. How do you do that? Focus on your heart. Our heart is the gateway between this earthly realm and the Unseen – between the body/mind and the Divine spirit within us. What heart-based habits do you need to set in place for this heart to be able to reflect the beauty of your spirit?

Set some time to work on those habits and plans… Let’s make this New Year the best that we can.

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[Art, Stories & Body Whispers®] What Needs to Die?

14/11/2023

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As you know by now, to follow along, you will need a blank-page journal or sketch book and some basic colours or collage materials. Every month we will explore a theme using art exercise and stories, sometimes I will suggest songs, poetry, or traditional wisdom that will add some insight to the theme. Finally, we’ll discuss common Body whispers® related to the theme we are exploring.

This month is about what needs to die.
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Once upon a time in a far away land, there lived a wealthy merchant who had a beautiful parrot. The parrot has been in the family for a long time. “she is my most precious possession,” bragged the merchant. The parrot was so colorful, smart and intelligent, she greeted him every morning and sang her nice melody at night. She gave answers to many of his tough questions, guided his way when he got confused, offered him comfort in his sadness, and celebrated with him when in joy.
The merchant built a magnificent golden cage for his parrot. He brought her delicious food from all over the world, filled her cage with exotic flowers and trees to please her eyes.

Years passed and our parrot grew weary… she seemed to be getting weaker and weaker every day. World famous physicians and talented healers could not find a cure. The parrot was gradually withering away… there was nothing that could be done! The helpless merchant was grieving.

Every year, the merchant travelled for his trade… And, this year, he planned a journey to India. He asked his beloved parrot, what can I get you from there? The parrot answered, “I want you to tell my story the parrots of India, tell them about my sad affair and ask them to remember me.”
The merchant took off and as promised, he ventured to meet the parrots of India in the dense woods and delivered his parrot’s message.
One parrot heard the sad story – and shook so hard that she immediately dropped on the ground like a breathless corpse. The merchant was set aback: “I killed the poor bird,” he lamented.

When the merchant completed his trade, returned home with presents for everyone, except his beloved parrot. The parrot immediately noticed his master’s distress. “What’s troubling you, my lord?” she asked. The merchant related what happened in the woods, “one of the birds felt so sad for your state, she grieved so hard, it broke her heart;  she shuddered and fell as soon as she heard your story.”
Our parrot listened attentively and immediately dropped in her cage. The merchant leapt and cried... “What have I done! My sweet sweet bird!” He lamented.
The merchant carefully took his parrot out of the cage and placed her on the ground to prepare for the burial. But, as soon as he let go, the dead bird opened her eyes and flew up on the highest branch out of reach.
The parrot stood on the branch for a moment, “The bird of India acted dead to show me the way,” the parrot explained. “My gorgeous look and sweet-singing voice kept me entrapped. I needed to let go. It was only by letting go that I gained my freedom.”
The merchant finally realized that he had to lose his bird, to truly gain it… He was happy for his parrot and exclaimed:
“God be with you each and every day
Bless you for showing me a worthier way!”


In traditional storytelling, every character of the story symbolizes part of us – as Rumi puts it, you are not just the Moses in Moses’s story, you are also the Pharaoh.

So, in our story today, the main character, our parrot, is the part of our soul that longs for freedom – for eternal peaceful beautiful life. The part that longs to be alive, to flee the cage and fly up high, no attachments, no fear, no restraints, no anxiety.
The cage is the material world with all its attractions and distractions… with all our desires, attachments and cravings…
The merchant is the part of us that chooses to play it safe, to keep the status quo. It is the selfish ego that is trying to “protect us” every time our soul yearns for freedom.
The parrots of India are the wise higher self, the Divine Breath in everyone of us, the part that knows the way because it has been there before - in time eternal. The part that had once tasted true freedom, and had been bewildered by the beauty of the Beloved. It is our inner guidance, the little voice inside us that whispers pointing to the right direction, to the right choices – yet most often this voice is muffled and lost in the wilderness of our noisy daily life.
To find the freedom, our parrot needed to let go of her fear… She needed to allow the old self to die only to be resurrected in a more magnificent way.
It is scary… Letting some part of us die is terrifying – yet at some point in our journey, we have no choice…  It is only when you fully trust and fully let go of your hold and your grasp that you will be truly free.
Carl Jung teaches that “only boldness can deliver us from fear and if the risk is not taken, the meaning of life is violated.”

The parrot is resurrected anew… but life out there is not a smooth ride. In the cage, at least she had food and water, she was protected from predators and hunters… But now, she is on her own. She crossed the threshold and embarked on her journey, on the Road of Trials. No one knows what will happen to her next, yet, for her, it is totally worth it.
This journey is life – without the challenges, it is worth naught – what purpose or meaning would we have entrapped in a golden cage?
Off she goes… once out of the cage, the parrot cannot look back. If she does, the merchant will never give her another chance. The cage will be tighter, he might throw her in a dungeon, a dark, scary dungeon to make sure she would never dare to break free again.
Once you cross the threshold, don’t look back!

Art

Open up a new page spread of your art journal and draw a bird cage. Take your time. It is not a prison. It is a beautiful - or not- bird cage.
Finish your cage before moving on to the next step of the exercise.


Now, pick another color - Where would you place your soul on the page?
Is she inside or outside of the cage?
Does the cage have a door?
Is the door open or closed?
Who holds the key?
Is there even a key?


Remember, there is no right or wrong way of doing it. Your art could be realistic or abstract… don’t worry about the drawing skills… don’t worry about coloring inside the lines, perspective or proportions… just freely capture the feelings you are experiencing.
Take your time and then jot down any words that come to mind.

Look at your art:
  • What color did you use? What texture? What shapes?
  • How strong, sharp, heavy or light are those colors, lines and shapes?
  • How big is the cage? Did it fill the whole page? The whole spread?
  • How vast is your soul? What color? Shape? Texture?
  • Does your drawing scare you? How and why?
  • Is it comforting? How and why?

Traditional Wisdom of the month

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​“Look round our world; behold the chain of love
Combining all below and all above.
See dying vegetables life sustain,
See life dissolving vegetate again:
All forms that perish other forms supply
-by turns we catch the vital breath, and die,
Like bubbles on the sea of matter borne,
They rise, they break, and to that sea return.
Nothing is foreign: parts relate to whole;
One all-extending, all preserving soul.
All served, all serving: nothing stands alone;
The chain holds on, and where it ends, unknown.”
- Alexander Pope (An Essay on Man, 1732)


Reflection & Journaling prompts:

Is your soul holding on to some part of your life that needs to die? What fear? What cravings? What worldly attachments are holding you soul back?
Cravings are not necessarily material things. Some times we crave attention, we crave to be noticed, valued, loved… sometimes we crave acknowledgement, we yearn for someone to notice our pain or recognize our value.
Likewise, our fears can masquerade into various forms. They can show up as frantic over-working, over-doing, a futile attempt to keep everything under control, organized, stable… we are afraid to slow down, to breathe… our world might fall apart if we but flinch. Sometimes, we are fighting against the natural flow of our life… we keep holding on to dreams that are not even ours… blindfolded, we follow the crowd wherever they might lead us…

Pause for a while and ponder…
What is holding your soul back?
What do you need to let go of?
What part of you needs to die to keep your soul alive?

Reflect on your life… on your journey and intentions…
What needs to die in your life so it can be resurrected anew, in a healthier form and shape?
What must die to allow room for new growth and regeneration, for a new healthy life?




Body Whispers

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Every cell of our body houses hundred of thousands of those tiny organelles, the Mitochondria. They are most famous for their role in energy production. But, mitochondria are essential for another very important function: regulating cellular death!

When a cell becomes damaged or show signs of malfunction, the mitochondria of that cell initiate the cell self-destruction – a process known as apoptosis.

It is estimated that every day, our body loses about 10 billion cells through apoptosis. It is a natural smooth process. Yet, it is extremely complex– our mitochondria do not take lightly a process that triggers a death alarm and initiates cellular disintegration. But once the cell is damaged beyond repair, it is time to die. And, the dying cells never go to waste, our body is a very efficient recycler. The cells are broken down in an orderly manner and the neighbouring cells safely assimilate the fragments and components for re-use.

So, what happens if the mitochondria fail to initiate apoptosis?

Cancer!

If a damaged cell is allowed to live, it will replicate and spread resulting in a malignant growth.
Our mitochondria are ever watchful, vigilantly scanning their environment: What needs to die?
If they fail to do so, cancer sets in.

And, as you know by now, our inner environment is but a reflection of our outer reality. The problem is not the cells malfunctioning or even getting out of control. Mistakes, pitfalls, bad choices and wrong moves happen all the time. The problem occurs when we fail to notice. When we do not allow to die what needs to die. Both in life and on the cellular level, there comes the time that begs the question: What needs to die?

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The 7 I’s: A Journey of Healing & Transformation

20/6/2023

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Our life is a story…

We make sense of our journey and our sufferings through stories…
Our pain stems from our disconnection from those stories… When we disconnect, our life and body sends us warnings, Body Whispers®, to tell us that something needs to change in our life. If we don’t listen, the Whispers get louder and louder until they become screams that we can no longer ignore.
Our healing lies in listening to our Body Whispers®, in reclaiming our story and re-telling it in our own authentic voice, in restoring connections and integrating our mind, body, heart & soul, finding our life meaning and purpose, restoring our health, and living in joy.

The 7 I's help you through this journey. It is inspired by Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey.


  • The first stage: Integration: It seemed like an ordinary life until you get a Call for Adventure. This call might come in the form of major life changes or challenges, or it might stem from your body sending you warnings, Body Whispers®, to tell you that something needs to change in our life - the warnings could be in the form of anxiety, depression, heartaches, body aches, or simple feeling of uneasiness… Now, it's chaos & ambiguity -  You stop to connect & integrate all the bits & pieces of your life and build the foundation of your primary. needs for safety, security, support, and belonging: who am I? Where do I stand? Who stands with me? The integration stage is the foundation that establishes the structure and framework needed for you to embark on your journey.
When this stage is not in order, our Body Whispers® to us through the adrenal glands. We feel anxious, unable to cope with stress, our blood pressure is out of balance, our bones ache, we experience constant fatigue, depression and/or our immune system falls out of synch.



  • The second stage: Initiation: Change is hard. Yet, as you acknowledge the kaleidoscope of your emotions (all the anger, fear, grief, frustration, guilt...), you Accept the Call & are initiated on your healing journey. In the midst of the chaos, you start looking for the light that could reignite your love, passion & joy.
When out of balance, our body sends us warnings through disturbance in sexual hormones and reproductive functions, creativity block and addictive behaviors.


  • The third stage: Implementation: It is time to make the decision - to Cross the Threshold & become an active agent in your healing journey. You own your narrative and assume responsibility for your life & your health.  You acquire knowledge & gather tools. You choose your allies & support system, you re-visit your beliefs about yourself and others, dig for “sparkling events” that point you to your strengths, potentials, and talents; and integrate those stories into your emerging identity. 
When this stage is not in order, our body sends us warnings through imbalanced blood sugar levels, digestive disorders, liver problems, different food cravings, addictive behaviors and some forms of cancers.


  • The fourth stage: Intimacy: Healing is not easy nor is it a straight forward journey. There is  no magic wand nor a secret pill. It is a Road of Trials that you have to tread. And, as you are advancing on the path, you are building your heart-based strength, courage & resilience. You are anchoring your trust in the Divine & intimately connecting with a sacred, transcendent reality that gives meaning to your life.
When out of balance, our body sends its warnings mainly through our heart, vascular system and immune functions. Lung problems and breast cancer are also common whispers here or rather screams.


  • The fifth stage: Integrity: This stage is an expected pause in any life-changing journey. Digging into your stories and exploring strengths and weaknesses force you to come face to face with many tests, allies, and enemies that might force you to retreat in the Belly of the Whale, into your Innermost Cave.  It is time for slowing down, for reflection & re-evaluation. Here, you achieve Transformation. You find your genuine true voice and trust & surrender your will to the Divine will. 
When out of balance, our body sends its warnings through disturbance in our thyroid gland and throat & upper respiratory tract problems.


  • The sixth stage: Insight: You are seeing through your ordeal and emerging with a richer narrative & a valuable contribution. You now must take the Road Back for Resurrection to occur. You reintegrate into re-engage in life with more wisdom & meaning. The insight you gain at this stage of your journey enables you to see new ways and embrace other alternatives, choices, and possibilities.
The sixth chakra, known as the third eye, is about finding meaning and wisdom in our challenges and humbly making peace with our human nature that limits our ability to find all the answers we seek. It sends its whispers through the pituitary gland, the ‘maestro’ of the endocrine system. This is why when it is thrown out of order, we experience load of associated whispers ranging from stress, worries, and anxiety to autoimmune disorders, immunity & reproductive system malfunctions, and metabolic disorders.


  • The seventh stage: Intention: You are strengthening your love and sincere connection with the Divine; reclaiming your true identity & sense of agency. You are earning the Freedom to Live: Freedom as our Divine gift to live our life in harmony with His law and order. You are now clearly seeing & actualizing the valuable purpose & meaning of your life. You are back "Home", yet you are seeing it in new eyes.
The crown begins its whispers through insomnia, headaches, dizziness, migraine, low energy, and depression. With an out-of-balance crown, we lose our sense of purpose, meaning, motivation, and interest. On a deeper level, it is related to brain and nervous system disorders and fatal degenerative illnesses.



We go through the journey all the time, with every new challenge, change or transformation in our life. We are always at one stage or another on the journey.​

Take the time to locate where you are at this stage of your life and thus envision how to proceed further.
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Best Books I read in 2022

10/1/2023

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This is the time of the year again when I evaluate the books I’ve read last year and pick my favourite. As you know I am a bookworm, so it was very difficult to limit my list to 12 books, but here we go… No specific order:


1. Love Executioner & Other Tales of Psychotherapy - by Irvin Yalom
This is a compilation of case studies highlighting the inner dialogue that is occurring in the therapist’s mind as he is dealing with clients - Yalom shares very openly what is going on in his mind - very valuable learning from the safe and effective use of self and the countertransference to the simple frustration and annoyance … Brilliant, very honest and really brave.

2. Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure - by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt
The book discusses how the over-protection of the young generation in modern-day society un-intentionally led to many cognitive distortions that crept their way into young people’s mind and became like a kind of Orwellian’s groupthink - I am unique, I am entitled to, I deserve, it's my right…- and how these distortions are re-enforced by the social media and internet which helped what the authors called “consensual hallucinations”. The authors explore many consequences of these distortions like increased fragility, low tolerance for others who are different from us, and many forms of anxiety, depression, and violence at times. They also offer valuable suggestions and solutions.

3. People of the Lie: Towards a Psychology of Evil - by Scott Peck
Are there some “evil people”? Why are they behaving in a destructive way? Are they aware of the harm they are inflicting on themselves and others? Is “evil” an illness? Is it a form of personality disorder like the ones described in the DSM? Scott Peck defined evil as “the use of power to Destry the spiritual growth of others for the purpose of defending and preserving the integrity of our own sick selves. In short, it is scapegoating.”
As the book suggests, as therapists and counsellors, we can’t start dealing with or “healing” evil and its victims unless or until we have the courage of naming it. Yet, naming it, in itself, is very problematic. Who has the authority to name it?
In my practice, I now meet women who call their husbands narcissists just because they refused to take out the trash or forgot her birthday or maybe got the wrong birthday gift… People are randomly throwing the narcissist and psychopath labels at their spouses, family members, parents, neighbours, and colleagues … Evil will even bear a stronger connotation if we start randomly naming it… Yet, to heal, we must name it. How can we solve this dilemma?

4. Atlas of the heart:  Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience - by Brené Brown
A must read for every therapist and even-dare I say- for everyone. Giving name to those itching feelings that rise in our heart beyond the simplification of sad, mad, glad, and afraid. There is charm in simplicity - but, when it comes to emotions, simplification keeps you on the surface. This book empowers you with the language and knowledge that allow you to dig deeper into your heart and name those feelings. It is only when we name them that we will be able to tame them.

5. The Shock Doctrine: The Rise of Disaster Capitalism - by Naomi Klein
Brilliant and Shocking! And, by the way, it was published before the pandemic. Let me just quote her here: “That is how the Shock Doctrine works: an original disaster [be it natural or man-made] puts the entire population into a state of collective shock […] serve to soften up whole societies. Shocked societies often give up things they would otherwise fiercely protect.”
“This desire for god-like power of total creation is precisely why free-market ideologues are so drawn to crises and disasters. An attraction to a kind of freedom and possibility available only in times of cataclysmic change - when people, with their stubborn habits and instant demands, are blasted out of the way - moments when democracy seems a practical impossibility.”

6. The Crowd: A Study of the Popular Mind - by Gustave Le Bon
A classic that is highly relative to our contemporary life.The author argues that “a crowd forms when an influential idea unites a number of individuals and propels them to act towards a common goal. This influential idea however is never created by members of the crowd. Instead, they are brought into the world by minds of great individuals” - those of course are the “gurus” of our modern-day, the influencers, the politicians, the “experts”…
Le Bon sees that the crowd is psychologically organized, “the sentiments and ideas of all the persons in the gathering take one and the same direction and their conscious personality vanishes” - “ A collective mind is formed.” Feelings and thoughts are turned into one direction , no trace of individual autonomy. They “feel, think and act in manner quite different from that in which each individual of them would feel, think and act were he in a state of isolation.” The sense of responsibility vanishes, the effect is contagious, and the crowd starts to obey all suggestions of the so-called “great individual” - the crowd starts to form its “unique characteristics and has moral bearing”. Impulsivity and emotional thinking are main characteristics of the crowd.
In our modern-day, we can find those crowds forming the “echo chambers” - social media pockets where beliefs and ideologies are amplified and re-enforced by repetition; and are isolated and shielded from opposing arguments and diverse perspectives resulting in un-intended (or maybe intended) confirmation bias and polarization. Sigh.

7. Propaganda: The Formation of Men's Attitudes -  by Jacques Ellul
Another classic. Published in 1962. Even before the age of the internet and social media, Ellul saw propaganda as a pervasive phenomenon that shapes our thinking and alter our worldview at the deepest most fundamental levels. “Development of sophisticated scientific techniques for manipulating minds along with the use of mass media for applying these techniques on the widest scale […] to effect changes in human personality.” He advised, “preservation of our freedom and autonomy will require recognizing its power.” - The question remains, how to remain self-aware so we do not get sucked up into this black hole - especially with the new technology, social media algorithm, increased life stresses, “Stolen Focus”, and all the demands of our modern age?

8. Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention & How to Think Deeply Again - by Johann Hari
The irony is that I got this as an audiobook because I don’t have time to sit and read the book - if you read my earlier blog about the “Duck” - here it is in action - our modern society is turning us all into what Rumi calls, Ducks of Urgency. We are running and running all the time unable to slow down and actually enjoy life. And, it is not a matter of simple will power or self-care practices. The problem, as Hari describes it, is much more systemic than we think.
A great read. It made me take my “Duck” problem much more seriously and start to implement lifestyle changes to slow down and take life in - Enjoy life instead of “speed reading” it.

9. Lost Connections - by Johann Hari
Another Johann Hari book. The author outlines 9 disconnections in our modern western society that pave the way to depression. Very well researched. I would add a 10th disconnection, though, disconnection from the Divine, from a Higher source or power.

10. Contemplation: An Islamic Psychospiritual Study - by Malik Badri
The book sheds light on an important worship practice in Islam Tafakkor - which could be roughly translated as contemplation, meditation or reflection. The author chooses “contemplation” to differentiate it from the Far Eastern practice of meditation. Tafakkor is a cognitive as well as spiritual practice. It engages the mind with its reflective ability along with the heart with its spiritual, emotional powers. It involves deep thinking with one goal in mind: developing spiritual awareness along with consciousness of and connection with God. As you are contemplating, you embark on a journey of discernment of the Divine signs in and around you.

11. The Rumi Prescription: How an Ancient Mystic Poet Changed My Modern Manic Life - by Melody Moezzi
Lovely autobiographical narrative. The author relates her journey, as an American exploring her Iranian roots and heritage, finding healing and restoring sanity with Rumi’s poetry. I love her honesty and vulnerability and love her interaction with her father/mentor with his gentle approach to conveying his traditional Rumi wisdom. The author takes us along her personal journey of  interpreting and applying this wisdom to her everyday life. Many topics explored: mental illness, isolation, distraction, depression, anxiety, anger, fear, disappointment… and more.

12. The Diary of Frida Khalo: An Intimate Self-Portrait - by Carlos Fuentes 
This is one of my weird-taste books - so, warning: it won’t appeal to everyone! Personally, I find it AMAZING!
This is the published unedited diary of Frida Khalo - what can be called in our modern-day, her Art Journaling. Although I feel it is an invasion of her privacy, I can’t help but marvel at it.
I use my journal pages to make sense of my world and create some order in the midst of chaos and I guess Frida’s diary was the fertile ground that sprouted her beautiful art that we all enjoy. Frida’s art is so vibrant and colourful, yet we know that she endured so much physical and emotional pain.
The diary feels like a doorway to the mind of this amazing artist, a peek into her soul- the aches and pain, the love, the hopes, the dreams - all raw and randomly scattered on the pages yet intimately interwoven. Maybe I love it because this is how my mind looks like - messy and randomly scattered, chaotic, confusing - it makes sense only to me - like this diary, although visually appealing, it would make sense only to Frida.
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New Year Reflection: 2023!

20/12/2022

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Another year is almost gone… and again, I don’t know how and where it went… so many things happened this year, and so many things didn’t.
​As we are preparing to move into the New Year, let’s do our usual end of year reflection. It is time to sit in silence and ponder… time to dig into our soul looking for answers or making peace with not finding those answers.

Here are our 7 reflection questions…
If you are a paper and pen type of person like me, you can print the images, stick them in your journal and dedicate some time every day during the remaining days of the year to reflect and make some decisions and choices.


Wish you all a blessed, happy, healthy and joyful New Year
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I'm Glad I didn't Listen

5/12/2022

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I grew up in my grandmother’s home. I was this little girl sitting in the corner listening to grown up stories… women who came to my grandmother for advice, service, and support. I have always been fascinated with the women stories and their wisdom. When I’ll grow up, I announced, I want to be counselling people listening to their stories and giving them support and wisdom like my grandma did. But, “This is not a profession,” I was told!
So,  stopped dreaming.

At school, I loved my creative writing class, I had loads of ideas, opinions, narratives, and views to express…  But my teacher did not like my writings… “Writing is not your strength,” she advised, “ stick to science, this is what you’re good at,”
So I stopped writing.

I then shifted to another passion… drawing, painting and visual art. My father and my brother are amazing artists, you could mistaken their drawings for photographs. But my art is different. I draw human experiences and healing. I express emotions and feelings through colors, forms and shapes. So, when I declared that I wanted to be an artist, I was met with a definitive “No way! You’re not good at art!” They advised in the most friendly way…“stick to science, this is what you’re good at!”
So, I stopped drawing!

When I graduated high school, I joined pharmacy. I was always good at science. But this wasn’t actually my reason for joining. Deep inside, I wanted to learn about those magical foods and herbs I experienced in my grandmother’s kitchen. Her kitchen was consistently brimming with aromas and flavors. A big pot was always simmering preparing the most delicious lunch for any potential guest. I have been enchanted by the magic of those recipes. I wanted to be an agent in people healing like she has been. Unfortunately, the way herbs and plants are taught in pharmacy stripped them from their magic, from their soul and reduced them to mere chemical formulas and Latin names. When I tried to express my point of view, no one understood what I was talking about.
So, I stopped trying.

I graduated top of my class and was hired as a teaching assistant in pharmacy. I loved my work. I love biochemistry. I love teaching and lab experiments. But, there was always something missing, some part of me I left behind in my grandmother’s home... some part of me that I left when I abandoned the kitchen, the stories, the sketchbooks, and the journals. But, I was now too busy climbing the ladder of academia and finishing my master degree in pharmacy.
So again, I stayed part of the system.

But, thankfully, not for long!
Fast forward… Now, decades later, I am glad I did not listen to the Nay Sayers.

My journey taught me to listen to my heart, instead, and not to fear being different.

  • They told me supporting women through stories is not a profession… I now practice narrative therapy, offer workshops and retreats, and my books are used to facilitate women’s support group around the world.
  • They told me I cannot make herbs my study and the kitchen my pharmacy… I now use herbs and natural products to restore health in most complicated conditions doctors fails to cure.
  • They told me I can never be a writer… I published 6 books, 2 of them have been translated into more than 10 languages and read and taught by 1000s around the globe.
  • They told me I’m not good at art… My art has been part of juried exhibitions and my art journals published in Canadian publications. I even integrated art in my work as a healing tool for self-exploration and expression.

Recently, I’ve been told of other things I cannot do and things I’m not good at…

My self-confidence took a hard blow and I retreated in my own little bubble. Then, I remembered my journey. And, maybe, once more, I need to choose whether to listen. I know now that it is my choice and I know that whatever I choose, the answer is never in hiding… the answer is in keeping the momentum.

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On Letting Go...

20/11/2022

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Every year, since I first came to Canada, I become fascinated by the sight of the bright colored tulips sprouting every spring. I learned that you plant the bulbs in October and they remain dormant during fall and winter until they miraculously bloom with the first signs of spring.

Back then, I bought some tulip bulbs – I decided to plant them in my garden. But, for some reason, year after year, I kept missing this narrow planting window. For some reason, every fall, my life got entangled in so much mess that I kept postponing my planting project waiting for the “perfect time” – "Maybe next year", I kept telling myself. I carried those bulbs with me as I moved from one house to another, from one city to another, still waiting for “the perfect time” to lay them in the ground. Finally, this fall, I decided not to wait any longer- plant them I will. So, I got the bulbs out of the storage box, prepared the ground, opened the bag, and lo and behold, here they were… all rotten!

It was such an aha moment. I laughed so hard. Here I was, carrying along a bag of rotten bulbs for years waiting for the “perfect moment – perfect life… perfect time… perfect place...
I wondered what other “rotten stuff” have I been carrying along? What other rotten memories… beliefs… ideas… illusions… dreams… have I been allowing into my life hoping that one day something good will come out of them?
What other rotten layers of my life was I refusing to shed… to let go of once and for all?
I finally threw away the old rotten bulbs and bought fresh new ones. This time, I didn’t wait for the perfect time and place. I didn’t wait for the best weather or best practices… I dug in the dirt and laid them with total faith that beautiful colorful tulips will emerge under my windowsill in the spring, God willing!
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“If you become addicted to looking back,
Half your life will be spent in distraction
And the other half in regret.
You can live better than that!
Find happier friends
.” Rumi 

“If you stop reading from your own small view,
The phoenix will grant kingdoms then to you!
” Rumi 
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Body Whispers: Neck problems

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Neck problems are related to flexibility. This is your fifth chakra: your ability to find your authentic voice and use it in a good cause, yet, it is also about learning to align this newly found will with the Divine will. Learning to trust: when do you need to keep pushing and when do you need to let go - not out of helplessness or despair but out of faith and trust.
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Ask yourself:
  • what is keeping me from moving forward, from moving on with my life?
  • Do I feel stuck? Why? What is holding me back? What “rotten stuff” am I refusing to let go of?
  • What other sides of the story am I stubbornly unable or unwilling to consider?
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    Hi, I'm Amira... I'm all for simple, natural, uncomplicated life... My core values are derived from my Islamic faith... My definition of wellness includes lots of smiles, human interactions, delicious food, music, joy, colorful paint, Mediterranean sunshine, blue sky and turquoise sea, care, love, compassion and deep heart-felt peace.
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